There are times when people choose to walk out of our lives. Unfortunately, they may also walk away from God. Our prayer is that they come back to God and God will let us know whether they will come back to us. Sometimes, He removes people to make our life better, because they are in the way of what God wants to do in us and through us. There are other times that they are removed so that we don’t interfere with what God is trying to do in their lives.
And we know that all things work together for good to them that love God, to them who are the called according to his purpose.
Since yesterday, the eyes of my understanding has been enlightened, so I decided to share … My thoughts about my son had become so very heavy on me for the past several months. I’d prayed, but I just couldn’t shake the spirit of heaviness. It’s been almost two years, since I’d seen him. This wasn’t the first time that he had left for years at a time. But this time, I’d decided that obviously God had His reasons for us to be apart and I just needed to be “ok” with that…. what I hadn’t realized was that I’d also decided that if/when he came back, there would be more drama and he would just leave again. I was tired of being brokenhearted.
God’s revelation for me started about a week ago, when I hear a church elder say that we are not experiencing God’s Fullness of Joy, because we are afraid to love deeply. We have become so guarded with our hearts and we just don’t want to be hurt again. However, we must understand that God is standing by ready to heal our broken heart, if we’d let him. He wants to restore many of our closest relationships, but He’s waiting on us.
With the help of the Holy Spirit, my son’s picture as a child showed me how vulnerable he used to me and he needed a mom. Although my son is grown, I’m still his mom and for me to be “ok”, I’d hardened my heart and given up on any hope of reconciliation and God’s Total Restoration. Today, God said to me, and possibly, to some of you too! …
A new heart also will I give you, and a new spirit will I put within you: and I will take away the stony heart out of your flesh, and I will give you an heart of flesh.
Ezekiel 36:26 KJV
And I will give you a new heart, and I will put a new spirit in you. I will take out your stony, stubborn heart and give you a tender, responsive heart.
Ezekiel 36:26 NLT
I don’t know what God has in store for me, but I do know that He can do the impossible, if only I believe, do my part and keep “Moving Forward by Faith”!
Yesterday after my organizing appt., I had a “sort & purge” adventure of my own. My journey started in the crawl space under the steps and of course, one thing led to another. I went from the basement to my closet and ended up in the junk drawer of my night stand, where I found this pic and a flood of emotions followed. The Holy Spirit has a very interesting way of getting your attention, so I decided to share by doing a blog post.
My Own Personal Moving Forward by Faith Moment
If you followed me in the early days, you know that my son and I have always had an “interesting” relationship, but I won’t bore you with the details. In 2018, I wrote a book and originally, there was supposed to be a chapter about my son in this book. But while writing about what he’s done, what he hadn’t done, what’s he should have done and what he shouldn’t have done, the Lord revealed to me that I was still holding my son hostage to his past and it was time for me to release him to walk in his present and to move into his future. It was no longer about who was to blame, but about us continuing to grow in His Grace. I knew that God had already written the next chapter in our lives and one day it would be revealed. I truly believed that my son and I were well on our way to reconciliation, but I never imagined that he would just walk out of my life, yet again!
My son will be 43 on July 11th and it will be two years since we’ve spoken. The Holy Spirit continues to assure me that God has him. Although I know, in my heart of hearts that God’s in control, I still struggle to understand. Yes, I’ve even asked God if I had to be my son’s mom (an oxymoron), but, of course, God said that that was not my decision. The pic just reminded me that No Matter What, I am Still his Mom! There are just certain things that God does or allows, that we will never understand. We will just have to…
Keep Moving Forward by Faith!
For I know the thoughts that I think toward you, saith the Lord, thoughts of peace, and not of evil, to give you an expected end.
There are times that it feels like some people have forgotten that we are STILL in a Worldwide Pandemic. For some folks, like me, we are reminded EVERY day. I live in the house with three (3) adults; my husband and my two grown daughters. My husband has not missed a day of work since the pandemic began and I’m sure that he needs a break from time to time from us ladies, hormones and all. For us ladies, we are homebodies by nature and for the most part introverts, so we haven’t gone totally stir-crazy being in the house. Believe this or not, we not only love each other, but we really like each other, so it has been a rather peaceful existence. Now there are those moments, when we may step on a nerve or two, but we try to resolve all issues quickly and not let them fester. This means that it’s imperative that we have our own spaces. Please don’t misunderstand, we spend most of our day in our own spaces, but we still visit each other periodically, especially when we need a break from our computers or Zoom or it’s time to eat.
For my oldest daughter, the graphic designer and entrepreneur, she spends most of the day between her office and her bedroom. For my youngest daughter, who has her Masters Degree in Library Sciences and Information Management, her bedroom also serves as her office and she spends a lot of time on Zoom.
As for me, my bedroom has always been my place of Peace and Serenity. It is so critical, especially now, that we all have a place for some “me” time. We want to make sure that there’s NO clutter in our area of Rest. Yes, I always have my professional organizer hat on. Many of my clients have removed their TV from the bedroom, so that they can read instead and I strongly suggest that we not work in bed. You can see that I have a small area in the corner of my bedroom, which serves as my office.
I may have shared with you, once or twice, that I truly prefer organizing over cleaning, so although I’ve had a lot more spare time, I really haven’t wanted to do either. .. but, no I don’t have a dirty, unorganized house, I’ve just be a little slothful at times. Recently, I had my 2nd COVID vaccine and was down for the count the following day…. but the next morning, I had to work on my OWN pantry and lazy susan!!
As I’ve already mentioned, I live with three adults and stuff may not go back “exactly” where they came from, but hopefully, the items will be put in the same general area. Since we will be continuing to grocery shop on-line, at least we can kinda see everything and won’t purchase duplicate items. Note: If you purge and organize any area, I can ALMOST guarantee that you’ll have more space!!
Well, you have now seen a glimace of the day in the life of a professional organizer on hiatus due to COVID, but let’s not forget my relaxation / “me” time, which is spent reading bible plans, doing jigsaw puzzles and Words with Friends.
So by now, you may be wondering why am I telling you all this… Although this last year has been one that we have NEVER EVER seen before and it’s not over, we’ve made adjustments, some were major. There’s a Lot that we truly don’t understand, but in spite of what we see and feel, God has continued to bless us beyond measure. Since I started my mission, Order Your Steps LLC, almost 10 years ago, along with this blog, my messages has been, and will always be, to encourage you to not only Survive, but to Thrive, no matter your situation or circumstance.
Whether you are Revamping your Closet, Reevaluating your Career or Reigniting your Business…
We must keep “Moving Forward by Faith”! We running toward the Goal!
We are Not looking back because it will only SLOW us down!!
Stay Tuned for more of my story, interviews with others and a lot of info sharing, which will hope will we want to inspire, encourage and motivate you!
“Hello, Candy Speight, This is a brief note to let you know that one of our partners recently reported sales or downloads of your book. (One sale or download was reported.)”
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Wow! It’s 2021 and there’s been a 2ND download of my book. So you may ask, “Why are you so excited?”
As you may remember, in 2018, the Lord compelled me to write a book. Once the book was completed, the Lord revealed that the lessons learned were first of obedience, which is so very important, especially when it clearly makes no sense and second, He showed me ME. After that, if just ONE person gets something out of my book, it becomes a SUPER ABUNDANT BLESSING!
“The steps of a good man [woman] are ordered by the Lord and deligheth in his way”
Winter gives the earth a deep cleansing and kills the germs in the air… BUT Spring is a season of rebirth, rejuvenation, resurrection and regrowth. The month of March has already passed and April is here. We are “Moving Forward by Faith” as we prepare for our period of renewal and attempt to restore a bit of Order to our lives. So now we need a 60-day plan… and then it will be Summer! Get the family to participate. Review the plan with them and get their support & buy-in (even though it may under duress :-D)…. and absolutely, have a BIG party when it’s done!
Ready, Set, Begin!
Days 1 thru 30 – Spring Cleaning **
Assess your physical space and determine three (3) major areas that require spring cleaning first and allot ample time to complete.
Assign small tasks to be completed over time.
Write down the plan, a realistic timeline and post it.
Yes, there is a difference between cleaning and organizing…
Days 30 thru 60 – Organizing **
Identify two (2) small areas that need to be decluttered and organized. For those areas that have some much stuff that we were unable to clean thoroughly.
We will need to sort & purge until the area is uncluttered. Then we can put everything into their proper place.
It’s hard to believe that it’s March already. The 1st quarter of 2021 will be drawing to a close sooner than we think. I pray that you are well on your way into the 2nd year of a new decade! This is a year of “Moving Forward in Faith”. We may have had to… 1) REIMAGINE our vision; 2) REFINE our goals and 3) REENERGIZE our plans, but now we must keep Moving Forward in Faith. We may not be able to see the entire path, but with each step, the next step will become clearer.
I had to be reminded that my mantra throughout 2020 was “God’s plan for us has not changed”. I just needed a little push beyond my feelings of uncertainty and now I’m looking forward to rest of February and all the months to come and I pray that you are too. I’ve reimagined by vision and my 2021 top three (3) goals are a lot clearer now. So here they are:
Planning my 2021 Order Your Steps Virtual Event, entitled “Moving Forward in Faith”! My speakers and the topics are lined up and the train has left the station.
Collaborating on a program for executive women, developed by Dr. Johnette Ruffner-Ceaser, owner of Liberated Expressions, which is way outside my comfort level.
Complete a personal development course, because even at my age, there’s always more to learn.
Identify three (3) goals that you can realistically accomplish over the first few months of the year, i.e. write your vision, make it plain and specific, or simply read a great book that will inspire you.
Identify those obstacles that may hinder you from accomplishing your goals and plan accordingly. Establish your priorities and set a reasonable timeline & realistic deadlines.
Identify measurable results and possibly, engage a mentor, advisor or friend that will hold your accountable to achieve.
January has been a very interesting month for me. In the spirit of being transparent, much of my time has been spent with jigsaw puzzles and Words with Friends, with a virtual organizing session every now and again. Then I made the ultimate mistake of looking at social media to see what every one else was doing (and I knew better!) and I found myself questioning my vision, what did I see?
Although 2020 was a extremely challenging year, it was also a year of many blessings. We lived by God’s Words in Psalm 91 (paraphased), No evil will befall us, No plague will come neigh that dwelling, for God has given his Angels charge over us to keep us in all your ways. The Lord had allowed my family and I to be in a position to encourage others, so I really didn’t understand what changed in 2021. The Holy Spirit never stops talking and I thought that I was still listening, but I was feeling really lost. I wasn’t sure if I was still heading on the path that God had set for me.
God will always give you an answer if you ask Him…I was strolling through my YouTube and came across a 2020 New Year’s Eve message by Dr. Dharius Daniels, Pastor of Change Church, entitled “I Still See It”! It was AMAZING! The key thing that he said to me was “Reimagine what you saw”.