…. til Death do Us part!

Before writing this post, I took a trip down memory lane.  It is amazing how much can happen in your life in 30 years….  and as a friend of mine always says “To the most casual observer”, it is obvious that the Lord truly Orders Our Steps!  On Monday, March 10th, my husband and I will celebrate our 30th anniversary.

Wedding Post 036This morning, I asked him to sum it up in 3 sentences, but all he said was “We were made for each other” and when you consider the faithfulness of our Creator, it is obvious that we were meant to be…. It is virtually impossible to tell you every thing that has happened over the past 30 years, but I will try to give you just a few highlights!

For my husband, it was love at first sight…. BUT for me, it was not that simple!  I had a LOT of baggage.  However, I began to see just how much he loved me, even if I did not love myself.  He was the first man to ever tell me that I was beautiful!  He asked me to marry him within a month of our first date (Sept. 1983), but I definitely wasn’t ready… 

But he hung in there and we were married in 1984!

In January, 1985, we had our first son, Kurt, Jr.  He was 3 months premature and only weighed 1 lb. 8 oz.  He only lived for about a month.  TOUGH, TOUGH, TIME!  But as the years went back, we understood that God had a purpose. “For better or worse”…

Reflecting on happier times, I was already working for Xerox when we met, so we got to travel on Xerox’ dime and ours too. ūüôā We went to St. Thomas, Bermuda, Aruba (Xerox Cruise), Florida (Disney World, Universal Studios), California, Las Vegas…. Wow! I didn’t know that we had been to so many places.

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Of course, the most memorable event was when our daughter was born in 1989. There are no words to describe…

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And three (3) years later, there was another one…

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Marriage isn’t always easy.  We have to work at it every day, especially during those moments, when I simply want to strangle him!

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In everyone’s life that are ups and downs, good times and not so good times, joy and pain… When we stood before God, the preachers, our family and friends, we committed our lives to one another. We vowed to love each other, for better or worse, for richer or poorer, in sickness and in health… ‘Til Death do Us part!    

I believe that with God’s help, we will blessed with 30 more…..

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Blog Chill Day # 13 – Part 2

I would like to go back to Blog Chill Day # 13¬†for a moment. ¬†The message in that blog post was that we can ONLY work on ourselves, we can not change the world, well you know what I mean… Many times when are lives are out of order, when things around us are in chaos, when we are in the midst of VERY difficult situations, we believe that the people around us are going to change… The husband or wife will realize that they have hurt us, the boss will understand that he/she are being unfair and unreasonable, the situation or circumstance will just turn around…. But what I have come to realize and most of us should understand is that the person that must change is YOU/ME, whether we are right or wrong.

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About five (5) years ago, I hit a real low point, yes I know that it is hard to believe. ¬†I won’t bore you with all the details, but I was in a depression. ¬†You know the story about my son… my mother in law had been with us about 14 years…. I was over 50 (very menopausal) and tired of being taken for granted!!!!! ¬†Yes, the¬† born organizer was in the midst of CHAOS. ¬†A life without true order was very dark for me. At this point, the only place I could go was to the Lord. ¬†I didn’t like my husband, I was willing to leave my children and as for my mother in law… no comment!

I want you all to pay REAL close attention! ¬†What the Lord showed me was that ……. ¬†I had to change! ¬†I kept trying to tell the Lord that I wasn’t the problem and He kept telling me that if I didn’t change THEN my situation wouldn’t change. ¬†I don’t know when it happened, but slowly my perspective started to change. ¬†¬†So what am I saying?? FOCUS on YOU¬†versus them, the situation or circumstance! ¬†Ask the Lord to help you to work on you. ¬†You will be amazed at how your perspective will change. ¬†Now don’t get me wrong, life has not been perfect, but I have a PEACE now that I just cannot describe!!!!!!

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I pray for husbands and wives everywhere. ¬†I just celebrated 29 years of marriage. ¬†It has not been easy, but God had done something new for our marriage. ¬†We take time to just sit and talk with each other over a cup a coffee. ¬†We don’t talk about money or the kids (unless it is good news), just pleasant conversation. ¬†

Reflect on your vows…. we’ve made a lifetime commitment to each other before God and witnesses. Spend quality time with each other. ¬†Take a moment to pray together. ¬†Renew your love for each other daily! ¬†

Your thoughts and comments are welcome.