There are times when people choose to walk out of our lives. Unfortunately, they may also walk away from God. Our prayer is that they come back to God and God will let us know whether they will come back to us. Sometimes, He removes people to make our life better, because they are in the way of what God wants to do in us and through us. There are other times that they are removed so that we don’t interfere with what God is trying to do in their lives.
And we know that all things work together for good to them that love God, to them who are the called according to his purpose.
Since yesterday, the eyes of my understanding has been enlightened, so I decided to share … My thoughts about my son had become so very heavy on me for the past several months. I’d prayed, but I just couldn’t shake the spirit of heaviness. It’s been almost two years, since I’d seen him. This wasn’t the first time that he had left for years at a time. But this time, I’d decided that obviously God had His reasons for us to be apart and I just needed to be “ok” with that…. what I hadn’t realized was that I’d also decided that if/when he came back, there would be more drama and he would just leave again. I was tired of being brokenhearted.
God’s revelation for me started about a week ago, when I hear a church elder say that we are not experiencing God’s Fullness of Joy, because we are afraid to love deeply. We have become so guarded with our hearts and we just don’t want to be hurt again. However, we must understand that God is standing by ready to heal our broken heart, if we’d let him. He wants to restore many of our closest relationships, but He’s waiting on us.
With the help of the Holy Spirit, my son’s picture as a child showed me how vulnerable he used to me and he needed a mom. Although my son is grown, I’m still his mom and for me to be “ok”, I’d hardened my heart and given up on any hope of reconciliation and God’s Total Restoration. Today, God said to me, and possibly, to some of you too! …
A new heart also will I give you, and a new spirit will I put within you: and I will take away the stony heart out of your flesh, and I will give you an heart of flesh.
Ezekiel 36:26 KJV
And I will give you a new heart, and I will put a new spirit in you. I will take out your stony, stubborn heart and give you a tender, responsive heart.
Ezekiel 36:26 NLT
I don’t know what God has in store for me, but I do know that He can do the impossible, if only I believe, do my part and keep “Moving Forward by Faith”!
Yesterday after my organizing appt., I had a “sort & purge” adventure of my own. My journey started in the crawl space under the steps and of course, one thing led to another. I went from the basement to my closet and ended up in the junk drawer of my night stand, where I found this pic and a flood of emotions followed. The Holy Spirit has a very interesting way of getting your attention, so I decided to share by doing a blog post.
My Own Personal Moving Forward by Faith Moment
If you followed me in the early days, you know that my son and I have always had an “interesting” relationship, but I won’t bore you with the details. In 2018, I wrote a book and originally, there was supposed to be a chapter about my son in this book. But while writing about what he’s done, what he hadn’t done, what’s he should have done and what he shouldn’t have done, the Lord revealed to me that I was still holding my son hostage to his past and it was time for me to release him to walk in his present and to move into his future. It was no longer about who was to blame, but about us continuing to grow in His Grace. I knew that God had already written the next chapter in our lives and one day it would be revealed. I truly believed that my son and I were well on our way to reconciliation, but I never imagined that he would just walk out of my life, yet again!
My son will be 43 on July 11th and it will be two years since we’ve spoken. The Holy Spirit continues to assure me that God has him. Although I know, in my heart of hearts that God’s in control, I still struggle to understand. Yes, I’ve even asked God if I had to be my son’s mom (an oxymoron), but, of course, God said that that was not my decision. The pic just reminded me that No Matter What, I am Still his Mom! There are just certain things that God does or allows, that we will never understand. We will just have to…
Keep Moving Forward by Faith!
For I know the thoughts that I think toward you, saith the Lord, thoughts of peace, and not of evil, to give you an expected end.
There are times that it feels like some people have forgotten that we are STILL in a Worldwide Pandemic. For some folks, like me, we are reminded EVERY day. I live in the house with three (3) adults; my husband and my two grown daughters. My husband has not missed a day of work since the pandemic began and I’m sure that he needs a break from time to time from us ladies, hormones and all. For us ladies, we are homebodies by nature and for the most part introverts, so we haven’t gone totally stir-crazy being in the house. Believe this or not, we not only love each other, but we really like each other, so it has been a rather peaceful existence. Now there are those moments, when we may step on a nerve or two, but we try to resolve all issues quickly and not let them fester. This means that it’s imperative that we have our own spaces. Please don’t misunderstand, we spend most of our day in our own spaces, but we still visit each other periodically, especially when we need a break from our computers or Zoom or it’s time to eat.
For my oldest daughter, the graphic designer and entrepreneur, she spends most of the day between her office and her bedroom. For my youngest daughter, who has her Masters Degree in Library Sciences and Information Management, her bedroom also serves as her office and she spends a lot of time on Zoom.
As for me, my bedroom has always been my place of Peace and Serenity. It is so critical, especially now, that we all have a place for some “me” time. We want to make sure that there’s NO clutter in our area of Rest. Yes, I always have my professional organizer hat on. Many of my clients have removed their TV from the bedroom, so that they can read instead and I strongly suggest that we not work in bed. You can see that I have a small area in the corner of my bedroom, which serves as my office.
I may have shared with you, once or twice, that I truly prefer organizing over cleaning, so although I’ve had a lot more spare time, I really haven’t wanted to do either. .. but, no I don’t have a dirty, unorganized house, I’ve just be a little slothful at times. Recently, I had my 2nd COVID vaccine and was down for the count the following day…. but the next morning, I had to work on my OWN pantry and lazy susan!!
As I’ve already mentioned, I live with three adults and stuff may not go back “exactly” where they came from, but hopefully, the items will be put in the same general area. Since we will be continuing to grocery shop on-line, at least we can kinda see everything and won’t purchase duplicate items. Note: If you purge and organize any area, I can ALMOST guarantee that you’ll have more space!!
Well, you have now seen a glimace of the day in the life of a professional organizer on hiatus due to COVID, but let’s not forget my relaxation / “me” time, which is spent reading bible plans, doing jigsaw puzzles and Words with Friends.
So by now, you may be wondering why am I telling you all this… Although this last year has been one that we have NEVER EVER seen before and it’s not over, we’ve made adjustments, some were major. There’s a Lot that we truly don’t understand, but in spite of what we see and feel, God has continued to bless us beyond measure. Since I started my mission, Order Your Steps LLC, almost 10 years ago, along with this blog, my messages has been, and will always be, to encourage you to not only Survive, but to Thrive, no matter your situation or circumstance.
Whether you are Revamping your Closet, Reevaluating your Career or Reigniting your Business…
We must keep “Moving Forward by Faith”! We running toward the Goal!
We are Not looking back because it will only SLOW us down!!
Stay Tuned for more of my story, interviews with others and a lot of info sharing, which will hope will we want to inspire, encourage and motivate you!
Order Your Steps continues to move forward in business and in ministry. I’ve continued to allow the Lord to take the lead, so I’m not moving too fast, taking it one step at a time. I’m waiting patiently for God to open doors and close others. For me, waiting does not mean standing still. I continue to prepare for the future by promoting my business thru social media and our monthly newsletter. I post alot more consistently and I’ve updated our website with some new pics and changed some old ones. Check out my Photo Gallery!
I’ve streamlined my work process to include a virtual assessment and on-line virtual organizing sessions, which is going extremely well. My on-site sessions are more structured and I have specific COVID guidelines for the health and safety of my clients and myself. All in all, my opportunities to minister continues to grow, one on one and even in small virtual groups. God’s plan for me has not changed…
Remember, we still have a purpose to fulfill, but we may just have to do things a little differently. Let’s continue to prepare for the changes ahead!
Knowing that God has Blessed us WAY beyond measure, I’ve cried a lot this past week, although my immediate family is safe & healthy. God has had to keep reminding me that He had the solution before there was a problem(s). So I’m TRUSTING Him with my whole heart and leaning not on my understanding (reasoning), Acknowledging Him in ALL my ways and He’s directing my paths (my decisions) and Ordering my Steps! I know that although it may not be easy right now, I’m listening to the Holy Spirit and will continue to seek Him for Grace, Comfort and Direction to walk as God would have us to walk! I believe that God is miraculously parting the waters and we will walk across on dry land….
Order, Organize & Obedience is UPLOADED!! OMG! I thought that this moment would NEVER come. As I mentioned briefly in my last post, this eBook has meant so much more than will ever meet the eye. When the Lord told me to write this book almost a year ago, although the content via my blog started over eight years ago, I could not fathom the magnitude of the lesson that I was being taught during this process. You’ll be pleased to know that much of the book is a lot more upbeat. It’s a great mix of my life, my career, my business and more. But now that the book is done, I must tell you that I uploaded the book on Monday and on Tuesday, I cried.
Being confident of this very thing, that he which hath begun a good work in you [me] will perform it until the day of Jesus Christ: Philippians 1:6 KJV
Although, I thought that this chapter of my life was over, once I acknowledged what the Lord was showing me, I believed that if I did my part that my son and I would be on our way to a new beginning (although now I realize there was really nowhere for us to go). For the past 25 years, my son and I have struggled to define what our mother-son relationship should look like. Unfortunately, we continued to discover that our definitions was based on different perspectives and different expectations. So when God told me to open the door, I understood, when my son walked through the door, I understood, but when the Lord closed the door, I didn’t understand and I cried. But on yesterday, I heard God say to me, through Bishop TD Jakes’ message, entitled “Blind Spot” and Pastor Steven Furtick’s, entitled “Trust Me, I’m Trying” today, that I must take off the blinders, stop trying and just Trust Him.
A brief summary of what God showed me is now hidden in a small section within a chapter near the end of the book. As God writes my next chapter, I hope that I will be able to share it with you one day. In the meantime, the release of Order, Organize & Obedience is less than SEVEN days away. I hope that you have an opportunity to read it and please let me know what you think…
My journey continues and I can’t wait to take my next step!
This journey of authoring my first book has truly been an adventure, yet truly a blessing… and guess what? My journey will continue, as I enter my next season of life. I have completed the 3rd round of editing and I refuse to do a 4th. Believe it or not, at this point, it doesn’t matter rather there are ten downloads or 10,000, my book is finished. It’s amazing how much is revealed when we write something on paper and read it, especially as it pertains to our lives. The Lord showed me so much about me and how my steps have always been ordered. I now realize that there were a number of crucial lessons that I needed to learn before I could move on to my next level in life. We never know what God will do to get our attention, in order to keep us on the path He has outlined for us, to fulfill His purpose through us.
My book will officially be released on August 31st. There’s no turning back now, although I’ve thought about it many times. I’ll just have to take my next step forward on my life’s journey….
Isn’t this the coolest flyer?! It was designed by Elayna, owner of Inked Designs
We had a “mini” pre-launch reception to introduce Order, Organize & Obedienceto my church family, but interestingly enough, the showing was not what I would have liked, but God ALWAYS orders our steps and I sold my first two copies of the book. Although, I wonder if I should proceed with the launch of the eBook, I feel the need to see this project through. This is my season of obedience and I cannot judge the situation by what I see, so I’ve decided to give you the next chapter of my journey…..
Chapter 2 – Life in Corporate America
Me & Brother Dominique (Xerox mascot)
My saga begins in August, 1979, when my career in Corporate America began. I’d worked for various companies since I was 14, so how different could this be? I have always been a perfectionist at heart, so I’ve diligently pursued mastering the tasks at hand. Doing stuff the way it is supposed to be done, is how I find order. But what I later discovered in Corporate America is that once they purpose in their hearts to introduce chaos, it is like living in a World of Espionage. They sought to sabotage my orderly existence.
Well, I’m the ripe old age 23 years old and that in itself came with life challenges. I’ve just returned from Austin, Texas (a really long story) with my one year old son and I’m back at home with my mom and dad. I’ve just been rehired by Xerox Corporation in their Call Center in Rosslyn, Virginia. Interestingly, within a few months after our return, my parents decided to split. I tried to convince them to allow me to keep the house, until they came to their senses, but they were sure that the split was permanent and the house was sold.
We lived right outside of Washington, D.C. at the time, which was a fairly easy commute into Virginia, by metro. But now, although we were blessed to be able to stay with my mom for a while, we were two bus transfers to day care with toddler in tow, another bus ride and then a metro ride to work. Over the next several months, we went from pillar to post. After my mom moved yet again, my day care provider allowed us to stay with her. This was great, until upon returning from work on day, I was shocked to discover that there had been a fire! By God’s Grace, no one was hurt. However, we had to continue from pillar to post a little while longer, until the Lord blessed us to have our own place. Needless to say, my credit was less than stellar, putting it mildly, but we found God’s favor with a resident manager and we were able to get our own two-bedroom apartment. Eventually my parents reconciled and bought another house. As I look back, the Lord never intended for us to live in my parents’ house, but instead He was preparing a home for my husband-to-be, my son and me. Although we may have to walk a path that we would not have chosen, many times we fail to realize that even through our valleys, God has ordered our steps.
On April 27th, Order Your Steps held our 2nd Annual Women’s Workshop entitled “DeClutter Your Mind”. Our minds are so often overflowing with thoughts of what we’ve done, what we should have done or what we have to do! The workshop focused on helping us to acknowledge our feelings and emotions in a more productive and effective way. We had three AWESOME speakers that shared with us some tips on Mental Wellness as well as to dispel some misunderstandings regarding Mental Health. The event was AMAZING! Here are a few key points that our speakers wanted us to remember.
“Pearls of Wisdom”
Evangelist Kim Hines started us off with our inspirational message, “I AM THE HEALED”. She wanted us to hold fast to these thoughts:
1. Trust the promises of God. If God promised it in His Word, then believe that it will come to past!
2. Trust the process! My expectation and time frame of my healing process was longer than expected, but I refuse to lose faith!
3. In everything give praise. Although, I am still faced with the challenges of a total knee replacement, I have not failed to give thanks for my complete healing. Believing that whatever we do through, that it will be for our good and His glory! Clear the negativity! God has this!
Ms. Jewelle Daquin is a Licensed Professional Counselor with a passion for combining her love for Christ and her dedication for mental health awareness. She spoke to us about “Silencing the Noise”. She wanted us to remember these words of wisdom:
1. Noise for a Christians has severe implications. For a Christian, noise is anything that distracts you from hearing the voice of God.
2. Noise can be both internal and external. Internal noise are the thoughts that we rehearse that prevent us from moving forward. Feelings of doubt, fear, and insecurity are examples of internal noise. External noise are the things we hear in our environment. This could be people, music, TV, social media, conversations etc.
3. Our frequency determines our volume. How often we plug-in to things determines how loud it is. If you plug into God often, His voice will be the loudest. If you plug into the things of the world more, that will be the loudest thing you hear. We renew our minds and silence the noise by tuning into God frequently.
Dr. Sadie John, Christian Clinical Counselor, who has spent a major portion of her life in service to others, both personally and professionally. She enlightened us on “Coping with Mid-Life Challenges”. She left with us these pearls of wisdom:
1. If we learn God’s principles for life, we will be equipped to handle every issue that arise, whether large or small.
2. Life changes are inevitable. If we learn to cope with change, we’ll lower our risks for anxiety and stress.
3. Examine every thought that tries to stay in your mind, because how we think, affects how we live our lives.
We all were truly blessed by what we heard. We pray that you will revisit these thoughts periodically, especially when Life becomes Overwhelming and your Mind become Cluttered!
We are truly looking forward to our 3rd Annual Ordering Your Steps Women’s Workshop in the Spring of 2020, entitled “Birthing Your Dream”… Stay tuned for more info. You don’t want to miss it!