A Rude Awakening…

As we get older, we have discovered that our children (to put it bluntly) really don’t want our cherished possessions. I have two daughters and I was saving my wedding dress, but guess what? … So even if you are not considering moving, you may want us to help you with those somewhat cluttered areas of your family home, i.e. basement, attic, storage unit, etc.


So What are You doing Today?

Yesterday was an Official day to give THANKS to GOD for ALL things and to Celebrate Family!   I am sure that we all agree that we MUST give thanks to God EVERY day….  We celebrated with our immediate family (minus son) and a friend this year.  There was an atmosphere of Love and laughter, Peacefulness and calm.  However, I do remember in years past, when we would Thank God, just to get through the day without something or someone igniting the pressure that was already in the room. (Of course, I am the only one that have had holidays like that. NOT! :-))

As we leave Thanksgiving Day and enter Black Friday, we are reminded….

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So What are You doing Today?  For some, today is called BLACK FRIDAY! (ominous sounding, don’t you think?)  … for some, it even started yesterday, after dinner!  REALLY?  REALLY!!   … A Mad Dash to the Mall for shopping and savings (?). In the past few years, it has actually become dangerous to be amongst the masses and masses of people trying to occupy the same space, at the same time, to buy the exact same items.  Are you out there right now?  Don’t get me wrong, I have always tried to avoid Black Friday like the plague, but I have spent many a day in Toys R’ Us, as well as other stores of all kinds … and WAAYYY after my kids discovered that there was no S______ C______, we had to have a REAL tree and make sure that it was filled to the brim!  But about 4-5 years ago, we had a revelation….

Today, we are home enjoying our day off (unfortunately my hubby had to work), but we will not be in the hustle and bustle at all this year.  We realized that we were constantly STRESSED about getting the right gift, about getting enough gifts (the girls HAD to have the same number of boxes to open and either way, we were gonna spend more money than we had!!!!!  I know that it may be tough to break the tradition of the holidays, especially if you have small children.  But we no longer have the BIG, REAL tree, now we have a small artificial tree that we put up in the dining room.  For the two years prior, we didn’t exchange gifts, but last year we decided to get each other one gift.  We plan a big family dinner with all the trimmings.  We play games and watch movies.  

At home, at work or shopping on Black Friday?   Please don’t lose sight of the true purpose of the holidays.  Are you stressed, tired, irritable, tired, stressed, frustrated, irritable, etc. etc.  Remember, this is the time of year that you should reflect on how far you have come over the years.  Be grateful for the LIFE that you have been given, although there have been a LOT of ups and downs …  and appreciate family.  Someone told me one day, that you can choose your friends, but you can’t choose your family.  (My son text’d me, “Happy Thanksgiving, I Love You!” …. hmmmmmm????)  God, is that you?

So What are You doing Today? 


How do we keep our space organized in a house full of unorganized people?

Let me begin by saying that we can’t force others to be organized!  I have spent many, many years trying to force my square pegs into round holes.  I fought many battles and won only a few.  Initially, I would suggest that we focus on organizing the space that we have total control over.  For example, our closet, our drawers and our side of the sink.  Then move into those “neutral” areas like the kids’ sock and underwear drawers.  Let the children help us to fold & put away their laundry… spouse too.   In my house, I am still trying to convince my husband that he has TOO MANY socks, but he does his own laundry, he actually folds it and puts it away.  He makes it ALL fit in his dresser chest, so I can’t argue. You have to pick your battles!!

Did I mention that my husband also has too many DVDs?

One of those battles that you don't need to fight!

One of those battles that you don’t need to fight!

Then pick an area that we can mutually agree to work on.  We really need the support of the other members of the house, BEFORE we just organize and then we are frustrated when they don’t keep it that way. Start on something as simple as the kitchen table or foyer, which may be the drop off point for book bags, mail, keys, etc.   We will need to establish a designated place for all items that are “dropped off” and then get everyone’s agreement.  Then we will need to have patience until everyone gets accustomed to the new process.

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Try not to be TOO serious.  The more we push, the more resistance they will become.  Make organizing FUN!  We want our family to enjoy the journey.   Have music time after dinner!   Clean up the kitchen together and then put everything back where it belongs.

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Try to get everyone to agree that the family room must be “guest ready” at the end of the day.  Family rooms are normally very informal areas, so we should be flexible.  You may want to have toy/stuff bins in the family room.  One for each child/adult.  Put the books back on the shelves and the newspapers in the recycle. Take the clothes and shoes upstairs when we go, get ready for bed…

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… and say a little prayer!

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 A proper place for everything and everything in its place. 

Simply take One step At a time…

my oldest daughter is my miracle….

… BABY!!!!!    Here is my story…. When we first got married, my husband wanted six (6) children, why I have no idea, maybe because he was one of five, I don’t know.  But let me continue.

During the first three years of our marriage, I had three (3) miscarriages.  Now don’t lose it, the Lord has allowed me to share my story.  God always has a purpose for us in our pain, to not only help ourselves but to help others.  But let me continue.

After waiting two years, you can just imagine how we felt when I found out that I was pregnant with my oldest daughter.  But let’s fast forward to the miracle…. when it was time to deliver my baby, she was breech!  After 7 months of supposed bed rest (when I wasn’t going downtown to get a fried chicken dinner with collard greens & yams, oh wait…) she was breech, so I had to have a cesarean.  But guess what?  … when they pulled her out, the umbilical cord was wrapped around her neck three times.  Just think if I had delivered her naturally….

A MIRACLE!!!!!  

Another interesting thought…. if all babies had survived, we would have 6 children, but think about this, if we had already had 4, we may have messed up God’s plan and my daughter may not have arrived at her appointed time…  at the time that God had ordained.   WOW!

Now having entered the world healthy, my daughter has excelled in all facets of her life ever since.

  • In the 95 percentile on the child development chart.  Her 6’8″ daddy may have had something to do with that.
  • She skipped the first grade, thus graduating from high school at 17 in the Top 5% of her class.
  • Graduated college at 20, Magna Cum Laude
  • Now at 23, she has started her own Graphic Design Company, INKED DESIGNS.

Please Check out her new website:  WWW.THINKINKEDDESIGNS.COM

Although throughout my life, most times I did not understand why things happened.  Now looking back, I have always been truly blessed, even when I didn’t know it.  God’s Favor….

My Miracle Baby… and an absolutely beautiful young lady!

E, I am so very proud of you!  Love, Mom